Life surely does throw things our way. And usually, I never admit to being hit – especially by shit. We are conditioned to think twice about reacting in certain ways, for we will be judged as disrespectful, immature, selfish or ‘not very spiritual’ ( or if you will – not very Christian, Buddhist, Godly, etc, etc, etc – insert your Deity or Philosophy here…)
So when stuff comes our way, we pretend we were missed, or just hit a little, just a flesh wound (in the words of Monty Python). If we even admit to getting hit – or shit on – we take most of the blame and deem ourselves one of the reasons the ‘throw of the shit’ was tossed our way.
Well, I have been shit on, and I got hit, and I don’t feel bad thinking that I did not encourage it! And that brings me back to hate. I hate what happened to me, and I hate the person who did it. Now I have to deal with the personal consequences of feeling the hate.
There is a big part of the feeling that does not feel consequential, it feels relieving. To allow such a strong feeling to pass through me is a very cathartic experience for me.
My past has always been directed to not allow such strong feelings. Hate has always been the worst of the feelings to have. It is a feeling that only soul-less people have, therefore, not something that I should or will allow to be in my ‘bag-o-emotions’. To pick hate… well… It’s not even been allowed to be in my bag-o- emotions. I have anger, frustration, impatience, resentment, ill-tempered, rage, but not hate.
Philosophy of Hate~
From researching sources on the topic of the philosophy of hate, I find these statements:
- Hate is a flawed emotion. It causes people to wish unnecessary harm. It is especially absurd given that there is no such thing as free will.
- Must not forget that hate is human. It is an emotion and must not be suppressed as with other feelings. The opposite of love. Like yin yang. There is a balance in this that is a part of our function and we need both the negative and the positive to have some kind of moral, values and opinions at all.
- Assuming hate is of some beneficial use and is an emotion or a basic driving neurological function common to everyone, what purpose does hate serve? What is hate called when used to do well?
- Hate is a human emotion and is totally irrational, as with many human emotions. It tends to blind people from rational thought and prevents us from thinking clearly.
- I think hate is bad.
- There are two different kinds of "hate." First, we have the irrational hate, which accomplishes nothing and is the result of ignorance. This hate is probably a product of anger and/or frustration. And on the other hand, we have the rational version of hate. When we understand something to be malicious to ourselves, or something essential to us, we tend to hate whatever that element may be. But we hate it for good reason. This hate is the product of love, and usually rational and responsible fear.
Having read and read and read statements such as the ones above, the one common theme was that hate was bad and that we should get rid of it. Only in a few statements was hate regarded as something that could be ‘good’.
Being brave enough to study, in my heart, the feeling of hate - instead of tossing it back out of my awareness, I came to the realization that hate is a check point – like all emotions. To disregard it is disrespectful. Like all of us, hate just wants to be heard! Listen to it. Make an evaluation. Come up with a resolve, and hate will serve to be one of the tools in our bag-o- emotions.
This does not mean going on a ‘hate spree’. Everything in moderation - as we are told and we can learn to be whole in ourselves. Even the dark pieces of our insides are part of what keeps us together. Ignoring any part of the ‘me’ would be like putting a hole in a coffee cup – things dribble out and splash all over, because part of the cup is missing.
As I own my hate, I can control it! Be oblivious to hate and it will probably show up unannounced!
What better way to be the best person, the fullest spiritual soul we can be - (as suggested by numerous clichés) than to review and study every emotion, every care, every concern and complete our process of being human? Being human is the most honorable way to praise the Divine (insert your Deity or Philosophy here).
Part Two – stay tuned!
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